I know it’s never easy to get over a past relationship, but we need to as certain relationships can turn out to be ugly and stress us beyond our imagination.
Starting a new relationship without making an effort to remove the bad phase of your life can spell doom for you, you may end up feeling more distraught. You need to get over a relationship that did no good to you.
Relationships that develop as a rebound are not usually lasting. Getting into a rebound relationship and that too before you are done with your old relationship, can be unfair as you won’t be able to express the emotions required to sustain a relationship. As a result, the next relationship will also end on a sour note leaving you even more distraught.
Learn to move on. If there is anything worse than not being able to forget already ruined relationship, it is wallowing in self-pity. Don’t feel victimized by your past…instead learn lessons from it while emerging as a stronger person. The ones who have been able to do it successfully find themselves in happy relationships once again.
Remind yourself that you are not the one to be bogged down by painful memories. You can make right decisions by being confident of yourself. If you find it agonizing to re-think over your past relationship, seek professional help or turn to similar individuals who are also in the same state. Sharing your problems and finding a vent for them would surely help you.
At such times when you need to re-examine yourself, you have to realize that there is no harm or shame in seeking the services of a therapist. At such times you may feel lonely and lose your ground. You may also blame yourself for everything.
The process of having to forget or get over a past relationship is not easy and you certainly can’t avoid it. You need to forget or get over a past relationship and only then can you be content in a new relationship. A fantastic way to find happiness in love once again is to completely let bygones be bygones.